Why we do gossip actually?? The shortest answer: to figure each other out. Since we don’t ever really know what other people are thinking, collecting information from and about them—playing amateur detective—is as close as we can get to being inside their heads.
We all know we should not talk about people behind their backs, but sometimes we can’t help ourselves. There is an episode of The Simpsons where Homer finds himself in possession of information about his neighbor This is one of the crucial essences of gossip: it makes us feel superior.
I observed men do more gossips than women. My apologies to all male readers. I don’t mean to be a feminist or biased here but men do gossip a lot, as much as women or may be a little more. women are generally tagged as gossipers for obvious reasons. Few days back I was reading an article about a research done which states that men gossip a lot more than women and I could not agree enough.
At first I was a little surprised when I read about it and I wanted a proof to believe it. To do this, I started observing the behavior of men around me, mostly my colleagues and occasionally my friends and family. The results were incredible – they gossiped all the time. The more I observed the more I found them to be gossiping. They want to know what is going on in other’s life; they even spend a lot of time discussing other’s life.
There is a guy at work who spends a lot of time discussing about promotion and appraisal and how to impress the boss while there is another guy who needs to be the first one to know about the office politics. He even goes to the level of making long conversation in silent tones discussing about office politics or gossiping about someone at work.
So what makes them different than women? Well women do it out loud and men are a little modest about it. They call it networking. While women gossip a lot with friends and family at home, men tend to do it at work with colleagues. Men gossip about politics, promotion, their boss or other colleagues or about girls while women do it more about their personal life and other’s personal life.
Gossiping is not a bad trait after all. It is kind of a social skill and if done just for fun and for a limited time is good and turns out to be amusing. However gossip turning into spreading rumor or gossiping about false information is bad as well as dangerous. Although gender does not really have much to do about who gossips. It is the individual’s personality trait that determines whether they gossip or not. However it is only a myth that women gossip more.
P.S: I was inspired to write this blog today because I found two men somewhere at my work Place gossiping for almost an hour and I could not help noticing it. *Smiles*